All my Littles in 2011. L-R, Samantha (5), Kendra (9), Patricia (5), Christian (5), John (4), Jayna (7), Madelyn (2)

Sunday, January 22, 2012

I'm no Super Mom!

The other day I had a friend wish me happy birthday she addressed me as "Super Mom" in her statement.  This is not the first time I have heard this.  I regretfully admit it happens frequently.  This literally makes me laugh out loud and makes me want to set the record straight.

I think that when people see me with a large amount of children they think I must have it all together.  "Super Mom" is a fictional character, much like Spiderman or Ironman.  She simply doesn't exist.  No one has it all together all the time.  We all have weaknesses in our planning, scheduling, housekeeping, & child rearing at times.  We all have lazy times that we don't feel like doing a thing.  We all have messy houses, dirty dishes, laundry mountains, & unfinished school days sometimes.  We all struggle with taking time for ourselves. 

I find it refreshing hearing from others that I am not the only one that has these struggles & love learning how they deal with them.  I find their words reassuring & their advice helpful.  I highly suggest that you admit that you are not a "Super Mom".  You must not only admit it to yourself but admit it to your friends.  Believe it of not, I guarantee your friends think you are a "Super Mom" too!   I really feel we moms need to debunk this myth, then we need to collectively agree to stop pretending or at least let our friends go on believing that we are "Super Moms" 

Find a friend and tell her one of your "I'm no Super Mom because..." stories.  You will be so glad you did because she will almost certainly relay her story to you.  I promise you will feel so free from having to act like something that you are not.  Then read the book "Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe" (even if you are not a homeschooler.)    

Here is one of my many  "I'm no Super Mom because..." stories:
Not long after writing my last post about keeping up on laundry my dryer broke.  It ended up being an electrical problem with the wiring in my home and took 2 weeks to get fixed.  This all happened right as the seasons were changing so as we got our warm clothes dirty, I just got out the fall clothes and let the kids wear them.  Well as you can imagine, a family of 9 can really rack up the dirty clothes.  It was not long before all summer and winter clothes were dirty and in a big, mixed up mess in my laundry room.  Now not only do I have a literal mountain of laundry to wash, but I also have my seasons of clothes that need separated.  I have dreaded getting this under control for so long that it has been 2 1/2 months and it is just as bad as ever.  We do laundry as needed at this point.  I will get it caught up one day but I dread the amount work it will take.  It is just much easier to wash clothes as needed and close the mountain in the laundry room!

What is your "I'm no Super Mom because..." story?